Passing Down Crazy

Because Sometimes the Best Thing You Can Give Your Kid is an Addiction…To Yarn

Keeping It Real


I won…I think.  You know the Firmament Lace Shawl I started a few weeks ago.  Yeah, the one I ripped out 3 times?  I finished Chart B and I think it’s right, but I’m not sure.

I keep looking at it, and it looks like a pile of holes.  The stupid thing!  I was planning to just pick a different lace pattern for this section, but I’m a bullhead and I. Will. Not. Be. Beat.  Especially by a dumb lace chart.  If it’s wrong, I’ll know it when I block it and then it will be too late.  So life is not always rosy with my knitting projects.

There has been a lot of whining in our house in the last week and it’s getting on my nerves.  The problem is…it’s me.  Homeschooling is going really well.  I’ve been making meals.  That’s the good part.  The bad part is demolition control.  My house is just messy, and I’ve been complaining about keeping up.

Then, on Thursday, one of the kids, who shall remain nameless, got probation notices (yes, two!) for his/her grades.  I blew a gasket.  I yelled.  I threatened.  I didn’t throw things because I was driving.

Fast forward to Saturday night.  I was sitting in my bed in the motorhome.  And, yes, I was knitting.   Hubby and one kid had gone home with their itchy eyes and snotty noses.  Allergy season!  Two kids were in the front of the bus watching a movie.  All of a sudden, it hit me that I couldn’t very well chew on that kid for doing a lousy job on school work, when I was doing the same thing with my job.  Ouch!  I believe God asked me to give Kid 4 a year of my time and homeschool her.  As a mom and wife, part of my job is maintaining my home.  God doesn’t call people to do things without equipping them for those tasks.

So what does that mean?  I’m fully capable of doing my job.  Whether I feel like it or not is immaterial.  That also means that the kid that is getting the lousy grades is capable of doing schoolwork.  It doesn’t matter if that kid feels like it or not.  But I’m older.  The kids are watching me.  They hear what I say, but they do what I do.

So, this morning, laundry is sorted and being done.  We’re finishing up school, and then I’m going to go clean stuff.  Because my kids are watching me.

Oh, I did get a treat in the mail this morning.

It’s Handmaiden Casbah, and the colorway is Sangria.  I’m test knitting another project for Susan!  I can’t wait to start it.  This yarn is heavenly!

It kind of looks like our fire on Friday night.

I’m off to be an adult!  Oh, and don’t tell the kid that’s in trouble about this post. I hate admitting it when I’m wrong!


Author: mariajhmom

I'm a wife, mom, quilter, knitter, and spinner. I blog at

11 thoughts on “Keeping It Real

  1. Sometimes we need a kick in the patute as adults even more than the kids do. (Do as I say and as I do…)It seems as though I’ve had more than my share the last 8 years, but I keep reminding myself what you thought of — that God does not give us more than we can handle — as long as it’s with His help, under His plan. Love that fire yarn!

  2. I love your honesty! You knew God was telling you to do things differently and now you are aligning to His will! Way to go!

  3. Sigh. Yes, I’m familiar with that life-lesson. I should commend you for your honesty and encouragement, but I’m sitting here being a bit lazy and really didn’t want to hear that right now! 😉

  4. Oh yea. God is chuckling-I wondered how long it would take her to get it. Those little smacks to the forehead- really sting! But you got it- I always celebrate those moments even when I don’t really want to face the ugly truth 🙂

  5. I enjoy reading your blog. I have two small boys, 4 years old and a one year old. I honestly have no idea how to keep up with the house, meals, laundry, husband, and my own needs. I give you lots of credit for homeschooling, whew!

  6. Yeah, go GET that lace! Then show your house who’s boss! And then, then grab that kid, and, and,
    and talk quietly and figure out what the problem is.
    Ah, you know what to do, you don’t need us to tell you.
    Good luck with the lace, the house and the kid. It will all work out, because, as you said, it’s really all in his hands.
    And I will forever think of that yarn as ‘campfire yarn’. The color is a perfect match!

  7. Don’t forget that its not only mom’s job to keep a clean house. The other people living there should be helping you. And I had my own freak out this weekend about the mess and there is only two of us!

  8. Isn’t it funny how many different ways we receive life’s lessons. Give yourself some kudos for seeing it.

  9. I can’t wait to see that casbah knit up! The coloring in the yarn is full of life and based on the photos matches the fire photo as though it were dyed to match. (poor pun)! I feel your frustration with the lace project. I have one on the needles that is kicking my butt right now. I’m knitting with 100% silk and I’m just struggling. Faith will get me through is what I keep telling myself, it will look great when I block! Just not sure I believe it myself. We are in the same place with the messy house thing, I struggle with this and the funny thing is, when all three of my daughters were home and little, I kept a very clean and picked up house. It’s only been the last few years I have had a hard time convincing myself it’s important. I have to remind myself that my youngest daughter has the right to the same home environment as her two older sisters. This also includes home cooked meals and full out holiday celebrations. Just another mom’s thoughts to let you know you are not alone in this.

  10. In the middle of a lecture, to my daughter, about why my daughter, feels the need to leave piles of books all over the house and how it drives me crazy, my husband quietly pointed to a pile of books and magazines next to my/our bed. I ralize that I have to clean up my act and I thought “how can I do any more?”. Thanks for reminding us that God doesn’t put us in a role that we can’t handle.

  11. Oh, I hear you! Been there, done that. And I only have 1 10 yr. old boy who I try to get to help (w/out complaining? oh no), and a hubby who is over-worked, stressed & crabby, so he doesn’t help at house-stuff – which leaves me. And yes, I’d rather sit & knit, but sometimes those Big-Girl Panties have to yanked up to my eyeballs to get stuff done.

    Good luck with all your chores!

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